Hello, I am Charlotte,
When I became a mother, I was constantly surrounded by people who were telling me how the arrival of a baby would be a major life change and that I could say good bye to sleeping and there was nothing I could do about it.
Let me tell you, I know how it feels to be sleep-deprived, waking up every couple of hours and thinking that there is no end to this or that I just have to patiently wait that my baby sleeps through the night.
Both my husband and I are big sleepers and we decided to seek solutions to help us accompanying our baby towards better and healthier sleep. For our baby's health but also for our relationship.
We uncovered a brand new world of hidden knowledge and information. When we pieced the information together as a puzzle, everything made sense. Yes, some babies and children have a much easier relationship and ability to sleep but also, Yes, there are plenty of things we can influence as parents. You can influence your baby's relationship to sleep as early as you want.
I got so passionate around the topic of sleep and babies, that I started reading 100's of books, booked 1:1 sessions with different sleep therapists to get trained and finally enrolled at the Institute of Pediatric Sleep and Parenting to obtain my official certification.
With me, you will not be advised to let your baby cry it out but understand, welcome and accompany their emotions. My sleeping plans are completely tailored to you and the well being of mothers and fathers are at the center of my recommendations.
There is no rigid method to help your child sleep better and there are no good or bad habits - There is just what works for you.
My plans are tailored to your objectives and the end goal is for you to recover a healthy and happy family atmosphere.
Looking forward to meeting you!
Abut crying
Children possess a remarkable innate ability to self-regulate and find balance, especially in challenging situations. Through play, laughter, closeness, affection, and yes, crying, they navigate back to equilibrium. When loved ones provide care, acceptance, and support during these times of distress, children can effectively discharge stress, frustration, shock, and even trauma through cries.
I don’t advocate leaving a baby to cry on their own. Just to make it really clear that what I’m advocating here is not the same, or even similar, to the concept that a child needs to be left to cry alone to train them to sleep, to “self-soothe” or to learn to be independent.
Aletha Solter introduces mindful parenting as a method to raise confident, compassionate children resistant to negative influences. Conscious parenting revolves around three pillars:
- Building strong parent-child attachments early on
- Implementing discipline without punishment
- Addressing and healing child trauma and stress
Similar to other experts like Faber, Mazlish, Gordon, Filliozat, and Nelsen, Solter emphasizes empathy in education, attentive listening, acceptance of all emotions, and rejection of punitive measures.
Noteworthy aspects of Solter's approach include promoting babywearing, breastfeeding, cosleeping, natural childbirth, and understanding the significance of crying.
Solter highlights that crying always has a purpose, particularly for babies under stress. She notes that parental reactions triggered by crying often lead to abusive behavior. Understanding the function of tears is vital in preventing abuse incidents.
In conscious parenting, acknowledging and respecting emotions are key. Solter advocates holding crying infants while affirming unconditional love through comforting words. Encouraging emotional expression helps children feel secure regardless of their feelings or actions.
Accompanying your baby or child towards better sleep
Parents & Family at the center
My method places the parents and the children at the centre of everything. My plans are tailored to your needs and respects your parental choices. I am not a fan of the term "sleep coaching or "sleep training" . I normally refer to it as accompanying your baby towards better sleep.
Emotions & Tears
My method does not involve letting your baby cry alone. However, changing a baby’s habit will involve some tears and frustrations. It's ok and healthy for a child to cry. The important concept here is to be here to welcome and accompany your baby’s emotions. This is the start of a trust relationship between you and your child.
Knowledge
My sleeping plans and recommendations are based on the science of sleep. Get ready to learn everything to know about sleep and babies in order to make informed decisions for you and your family.
Love
Love is the key to everything in my method. You are seeking help because you love your child. You are wanting to change things in their best interest and those of your family. Love will be the key to making your child or baby accept changes.
Frequently Asked Questions
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